So I just finished watching the new and highly anticipated trailer for the movie, Fifty Shades of Grey, and I can’t say I’m that stoked about it. The book was different from most bestsellers out there but it wasn’t exactly a showcase of really good writing. This may sound like a bash on the book and the movie but I’m calling it like it is. Yes, I read the series and being someone who was unfamiliar with the BDSM scene, I was all “Oohs” and “Ahhs” with this book despite the main character repeatedly calling her vagina a “there”.
When I read the Fifty Shades of Grey series, I had to read it at home or have an extra layer of foundation makeup applied to my face so people wouldn’t see me constantly blush in public!
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Fifty Shades of Grey will be coming to theaters on Valentine’s Day (apparently February 13th now …). People will watch the movie and either leave all hot and bothered and look for some action or (most of the general public) will walk away disgusted and confused. Kinksters who manage to talk themselves into watching this movie next year will be silently cursing the movie the whole time while thinking, ‘You’re doing it wrong! This is going to ruin it for the BDSM community!’ because it probably will. We already know what most curious couples will be doing that night after the movie.
Speaking of the BDSM lifestyle, has anyone noticed how many Christian Greys have popped up since the book was published? You have people on forums and even Craigslist ads claiming to want a BDSM relationship because they’ve read this book. It’s perfectly fine as long as you learn about what you’re getting into and have a genuine interest. A good number of people have been interested in the lifestyle before Fifty Shades of Grey and never knew what that urge and tendency was called until they read the book. Those people will most likely begin to reach out to others in the BDSM community, make friends, and have loads of fun at munches and parties. What concerns me are the whack jobs and abusive people looking to hurt someone without considering the other person’s wants, needs, or limits. These people just read the book and have this idea that BDSM is ‘I’m going to make them sign a contract, pick up some whips from a sex toy store, and I’m going to find someone to beat the crap out of. They’re going to start calling me Sir/Madam/Mistress right away’ or ‘I’m going to find someone just like Christian Grey’.
I told you they were out there …
After watching the trailer, I wasn’t impressed with the actor portraying Christian Grey. The last thing we need is another Robert Pattinson/Kristen Stewart (lack of) on-screen chemistry. I understand that the full feature will (hopefully) flesh out the characters but there is no guarantee that it will happen. They are working with Universal and particularly Focus Features (Pride and Prejudice, Eternal Sunshine of the Spotless Mind, Hot Fuzz, and Brokeback Mountain) so that is slightly more reassuring.
I am currently researching Atlanta’s nightlife scene, and the BDSM community/lifestyle is one (HUGE) article that I hope to finish later this year. It is only one part of a three-part series so stay in touch and be on the lookout for them!
I hope you enjoyed this article and we’ll keep our fingers crossed that this movie will be a good one.
And finally, the trailer for Fifty Shades of Grey:
Bitches, (not you all!) come in good ways and bad. Today, is all about bitches, bitching, and being one, too. I’ll start off with my good side and move onto to Georgia’s forthcoming crisis.
So I’m an avid reader and I’ve just finished reading Why Men Love Bitches by Sherry Argov, for the third time. It’s not only because I used to be a sweet and nice girl who needed some desperate help and turned to a self-help book, but also the fact that I have a hard time following directions. You tell me to do one thing, and I’ll forget so rereading guides and self-help books are things I always do.
Hah, I never had that problem with fiction. But then again, there isn’t too much to learn from fiction anyway. (Imagine what we’d learn from Twilight …)
Most of you will be thinking, “Why would I want to be a bitch?” or, “That’s not true. It’s a lie!” I know, I know. According to dictionary.com this is what a bitch is:
bitch:
a female dog
a malicious and selfish woman
Now, by no means do I nor Sherry advocate ladies to be female dogs or malicious, lewd women. As Sherry mentions in her intro, she’s talking about the woman who knows how to get her own without a man. She’ll stand up for herself when he crosses that line (which he’ll do any time he can get away with it). This kind of woman doesn’t need to shout, throw things or give him ultimatums because she knows that all men are like toddlers, they’ll test the waters (of your patience) to get a reaction. So what the bitch does is simply ignore his actions and he comes running around because he thinks she’s not caring enough to bicker anymore. It’s not about tricking him or anything. It’s about being accepted and respected the way you should be.
"Oh yes, you are!!!"
This book’s purpose is to take you away from being a doormat. Ahem, I mean the nice girl. You know, the one who changes her outfit because the moment he grimaced and wrinkled his nose in disapproval, she was praying that it wouldn’t be the end of life as she knew it. She’s always the one waiting on his calls, and she drops her social life so that he can make the time to see her. Like Argov puts it, “she slaves away cooking a seven-course candlelit dinner, and all he does is call to blow her off at the last-minute. And the next day when he calls her to get some uh-huh action, she says yes.”
The book is split into chapters and there are a total of 11. Sherry Argov goes from teaching you basic principles of attraction, to holding off on the sex and how it benefits you, to being a “dumb” fox, and much more. It’s very easy to read and I’ll tell you that it really does work. Her attraction principles got me hooked and taking the book seriously. Here are some to check out:
ATTRACTION PRINCIPLES
#1 Anything a person chases in life runs away. (kitties included!)
#7 Act like a prize and you’ll turn him into a believer.
#30 Any time a woman competes with another woman, she demeans herself.
#36 The token power position is for public display, but the true power position is for private viewing only. And this is the only one that matters.
I have an interesting story about how I got results through this book. Pete and I had only been dating for a few months when I asked to borrow some money in order to pay off my a bill since I hadn’t been paid yet. He offered to pay for it without me borrowing so I gave him the deadline and thought nothing else. Time passed and my bill was borderline of being overdue. No words could urge him to pay the bill so I took matters into my own hands. I called up a guy friend and asked him to borrow the money and he happily agreed. Pete called me around midday to see how I was doing and asked about my bill. I told him there was no need because the bill would be paid very soon. That piqued his interest and he asked how. I told him that my guy friend would be fine lending me the money. These were Pete’s exact words:
“I want you to call him immediately and tell him never mind. You are not taking any money from him. Do you have a pen and paper handy because here’s my credit card number … “
You see, immediate results. We didn’t have to fight or argue and no one’s at fault. A man needs to feel like he has a purpose and wants to protect his woman. When I enlisted another man for help, it would’ve meant that he, as a man, was incapable of providing for his woman and men value ego above everything. I just had to indirectly get him to do my bidding. So I got my bill paid, and he felt like a king for saving the damsel in distress. Easy as that.
You can find Why Men Love Bitches at amazon.com, Barnes and Noble, Borders, or any retail bookstore near you. I wish I could say more about this book but that’s for me to know and for you to find out.
Georgia has gone and committed economical suicide with Governor Nathan Deal going down for political suicide as well.
The Georgia Immigration Bill headed over to Nathan Deal today and it really sounds like he’ll sign it. So this new bill (HB 87) allows the state’s law enforcement and any new hires a business with over 10 employees makes, the authority and right to identify illegal aka undocumented immigrants. Now, not only will criminals be arrested for a crime, they have to prove that they’re legal immigrants, citizens, etc. This bill makes getting a job harder for many of our secret citizens, of course, and what does that mean for people who are illegal but are already hired and working?
The thing that bugs me the most is why the United States has always been geared towards getting Mexicans, yes I said Mexicans, out of here. It’s as though they are the only people who’ve EVER come to America illegally. I know people up and down the street who are illegal. A Bangladeshi college friend of mine is illegal. The Asian girl who backstabbed me a few years ago has illegal grandparents. My Mexican friend who pays taxes is illegal. A lot of foreign students with expired visas are illegal. So why … are we targeting only one country? I mean, did we feel bad for the Vietnamese because we tried to wipe out their government decades ago or do we really feel bad for foreign students from third world countries so that we overlook them? Yes, it may be the fact that in the past decade, a whole bunch of Mexicans have come over, but a lot of illegal immigrants from elsewhere did, too. And now, if anyone is harboring or transports immigrants, are subject to punishment, too. So it’s best we start pointing fingers and play I Spy the Mexican before we, ourselves, get into trouble, too, right?. What complete bullshit.
Really, how is it okay if US citizens have a problem with the law, we go to Canada to use and take advantage of their established government? Latinos have to wait years, sell everything they have, or ride on top of trains before they can live a dream but all I have to do is drive across the northern national border? Seriously, that doesn’t make any sense.
We're going to need a lot of praying for this.
Honestly, Georgia and the United States of America should both know and recall the economic downfall that took place after Arizona tried to drive out illegal immigrants with a similar bill a year ago. GA hasn’t been looking too good since we’re just recovering from a gas and drought crisis within the past few years. And now, crime rates will go up. The remaining Hispanic community here without documents will be living in fear of the cops and that’s not good at all when it gets to the point when people won’t be reporting crimes because they’re afraid that they’ll get caught.
I don’t believe that we should just let people from other countries unlawfully come here, but at least do something good for the ones who are here already. It won’t hurt for them to have a fearless and legal standing. We should enforce the border security and do our best in educating people who want to come to the US be establishing international programs suited for this cause.
I’m certain lawsuits will erupt and truthfully, we saw this coming. (I didn’t because I didn’t vote for that man.) The majority of GA voted for Nathan Deal, who specifically said that he’d target the illegal immigration issue once he was elected. Georgia’s House Bill 87 is extreme, racially profiling, and depressing and we’re going to be the ones who live with it.
Napalm Kitty 