5 Signs It’s Time to Quit Your Job

Photo courtesy of thesaleside.com
Photo courtesy of thesaleside.com

I like to think that I am a hard working individual. It doesn’t matter if I am washing dishes or if I am retouching photos because if it’s something I can enjoy (or tolerate) then I give it my all. What I do notice is that I tend to get tired of a job when I feel like no further progress can be made or if the overall work morale is low. My behavior and performance is affected by my disinterest and I start to think about looking for another job. (It didn’t help that most of this occurred when I was a teenager.)

This has happened to me a few times already and if you start to notice these behaviors maybe it’s time to start a new job or spice up your current one before it is too late. I left some and others I was able to salvage by either fixing my work relationships or find ways to motivate myself again.

I’m not saying these are the only five indicators that let you know it’s time to move on to better career opportunities but these were the more common ones that came to mind. The decision to quit is ultimately a decision to be made by oneself.

1. Your work performance is suffering.

When you’re getting tired of your job, you’ll find ways to not work as hard. In other words, you’re slacking off. You might look for ways to cut corners, show up late to work, or even not work while at work (Hey, I showed up, right?). There are countless factors that could drive people to do this but whatever the underlying issue is, it needs to be addressed.

2. You have poor relationships with your coworkers (managers included).

Human beings are naturally social creatures. Since the beginning of time, people banded together and hunted or gathered after realizing what they were good at doing, and they probably had a better chance at survival when they functioned as one unit.

If you’re in a work environment that is either hostile, demotivating, or repressing, you end up feeling alone and unsupported.

It is important to build great work relationships because it is emotionally straining when your coworkers either don’t care or if they don’t like you.

3. You frequently call out of work (or are thinking about it).

When you are tired of your job/workplace, you don’t want to be there anymore. You’ll naturally find reasons to not be there and if action is taken, you call out or in more extreme cases, you simply do not show up (a huge sign that something is very wrong because missing work without letting anyone know could land you in a lot of trouble).

4. You constantly compare the progress of your career with someone else’s.

In my opinion, it’s generally not healthy to constantly pit ourselves up against other people. Doing so causes people to generally feel negative emotions such as anxiety, envy, depression, etc. Sometimes, it can be motivating when you aspire to do well and have some friendly competition. When done excessively, you can easily make yourself miserable especially if you fall short accomplishing what others have accomplished.

5. You feel like you’re heading towards a dead end.

A dead end job is one that may exhibit some or all of the following characteristics: offers no further opportunities to advance in the company, doesn’t teach you anything about yourself, forces you to live paycheck to paycheck, doesn’t offer enough networking opportunities, and makes you feel like you’re wasting your life/time.

There is no point in staying in a job that physically and emotionally leads you nowhere because you’re only going to be worn down until you reach your breaking point. Sometimes we’re in situations where we don’t have the liberty to just leave a job but we don’t have to be unhappy either. I hope this article helps you decide whether it is time to move on or not.

People Can Be So Jelly At Times. Wait, All the Time

In my last post, I announced that I’m going to change my hair color soon. I googled a bit for some inspiration and I’m just pissed that people are still bashing on Asians wearing the lighter shades of BLONDE. I admit, blonde hair is not easy to pull off. It’s not just because of your ethnicity, but also because you have to be keen on the upkeep (nasty Shakira wannabes and their roots are a no-no), have a reasonably attractive facial structure, and possess the confidence to make it work. From what I know, hair color also depends on your skin color, but I personally don’t lean towards that theory too much. Example being: “You’re too dark to have blonde hair.”

Excuse me, have they seen black people with blonde hair? Sure, they have. People of color can make it work. Ru Paul, Beyonce, and Keyshia Cole bring it but people forget that usually.

However, if let’s say little Asian me wants to do the same, I’ll get comments left and right about it making me look trashy (even though Christina A.’s skunk thing a few years ago is the literal definition of trashy) or how come I want to look more white/Caucasian … I mean, it’s not like I’m running around with a bad dye job because I haven’t and won’t be. The concept of Asians (girls, in my case) being fair-haired is fairly new and people are almost always afraid of change. It’s 2011, so get with it already.

People are saying that blonde doesn’t look natural on Asians. And the truth is: No shit. I didn’t know they were expecting us to look natural. Have you seen an unmixed Asian person born with blonde hair? Uh … No! The point of having blonde hair is not that it looks natural for us colorful folks, but the fact that it makes a statement. I mean, if the general public knows that Asians aren’t naturally born that way, there’s no reason to point out the obvious. It’s not about trying to be white (and a lot of them can’t even pull of being blonde either) with the hair. It’s about doing it just because you can and representing how you feel on the inside and bringing it out.

Its Exo-Chika from Aural Vampire!

I have to say, there are way more than a handful of Asian, Black, Indian, Caucasians and so forth who can’t pull off being blonde because it’s hard work adapting to a lifestyle. Yes, I said, “Lifestyle”. And it’s depressing that the rest of us who can pull it off get fucked over by the general public’s opinion. And the worse thing is actually when Asian girls themselves will eye you and give you that, “Ugh, a blonde Asian,” look. To hell with them because the ones who do are:

1. super jealous that they don’t have what it takes to pull it off (i.e. the fugly ones and the ones who look good, but not as good as you)

or ….

2. conservatives, when it comes to hair color, originality, etc. (tsk, tsk)

I’ll leave it to them to choke on my trendsetter dust. As a person, I want to stand out (for good reasons) and not just be looked over and believe it or not, the way you look does have the power to impact and make lasting impressions. Also, hair grows back so why should we be afraid to try in the first place? Plus, if all else fails, it’s so easy to just dye your hair to something dark than it is to lift it a few levels. And if you’re going to make such a dramatic change, at least have the decency to buy some violet shampoo, a handful off deep conditioners and some keratin treatments to pamper your hair. I love what Xiaxue and Aural Vampire’s Exo-Chika have done to their hair.

Its Xiaxue!!! Photo from xiaxue.blogspot.com

Next month for my pick-me-up hair appointment. We’ll see if Pete comes with because he needs a cut. And yeah, he’s an option #2 from above but then again, he met me when I was a pink champagne blonde so he’ll live with it. He is going to have to anyway!

I can’t wait, and who knows, I might end up a redhead although I highly doubt that.

Me back in early 2010!!! I went blonde because my hairstylist made a bet with me saying I couldn't do it myself but I did! Such a buttery blonde! I just wish my hair was a bit longer.