In my last post, I announced that I’m going to change my hair color soon. I googled a bit for some inspiration and I’m just pissed that people are still bashing on Asians wearing the lighter shades of BLONDE. I admit, blonde hair is not easy to pull off. It’s not just because of your ethnicity, but also because you have to be keen on the upkeep (nasty Shakira wannabes and their roots are a no-no), have a reasonably attractive facial structure, and possess the confidence to make it work. From what I know, hair color also depends on your skin color, but I personally don’t lean towards that theory too much. Example being: “You’re too dark to have blonde hair.”

Excuse me, have they seen black people with blonde hair? Sure, they have. People of color can make it work. Ru Paul, Beyonce, and Keyshia Cole bring it but people forget that usually.

However, if let’s say little Asian me wants to do the same, I’ll get comments left and right about it making me look trashy (even though Christina A.’s skunk thing a few years ago is the literal definition of trashy) or how come I want to look more white/Caucasian … I mean, it’s not like I’m running around with a bad dye job because I haven’t and won’t be. The concept of Asians (girls, in my case) being fair-haired is fairly new and people are almost always afraid of change. It’s 2011, so get with it already.

People are saying that blonde doesn’t look natural on Asians. And the truth is: No shit. I didn’t know they were expecting us to look natural. Have you seen an unmixed Asian person born with blonde hair? Uh … No! The point of having blonde hair is not that it looks natural for us colorful folks, but the fact that it makes a statement. I mean, if the general public knows that Asians aren’t naturally born that way, there’s no reason to point out the obvious. It’s not about trying to be white (and a lot of them can’t even pull of being blonde either) with the hair. It’s about doing it just because you can and representing how you feel on the inside and bringing it out.

I have to say, there are way more than a handful of Asian, Black, Indian, Caucasians and so forth who can’t pull off being blonde because it’s hard work adapting to a lifestyle. Yes, I said, “Lifestyle”. And it’s depressing that the rest of us who can pull it off get fucked over by the general public’s opinion. And the worse thing is actually when Asian girls themselves will eye you and give you that, “Ugh, a blonde Asian,” look. To hell with them because the ones who do are:

1. super jealous that they don’t have what it takes to pull it off (i.e. the fugly ones and the ones who look good, but not as good as you)

or ….

2. conservatives, when it comes to hair color, originality, etc. (tsk, tsk)

I’ll leave it to them to choke on my trendsetter dust. As a person, I want to stand out (for good reasons) and not just be looked over and believe it or not, the way you look does have the power to impact and make lasting impressions. Also, hair grows back so why should we be afraid to try in the first place? Plus, if all else fails, it’s so easy to just dye your hair to something dark than it is to lift it a few levels. And if you’re going to make such a dramatic change, at least have the decency to buy some violet shampoo, a handful off deep conditioners and some keratin treatments to pamper your hair. I love what Xiaxue and Aural Vampire’s Exo-Chika have done to their hair.

Next month for my pick-me-up hair appointment. We’ll see if Pete comes with because he needs a cut. And yeah, he’s an option #2 from above but then again, he met me when I was a pink champagne blonde so he’ll live with it. He is going to have to anyway!

I can’t wait, and who knows, I might end up a redhead although I highly doubt that.